It is possible to have too much self-control.
This is a counterintuitive idea behind Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (RO DBT). RO DBT is an empirically based therapy that effectively treats overcontrol clients. Most of the time, self-control is good, but some people can suffer from excessive self-control. For these people, inhibiting and controlling impulses and emotions has become so habitual and automatic that they have problems relaxing control when needed. This can result in overcontrolled people being overly inhibited, perfectionistic, cautious, and feeling exhausted by social interactions.
Maggie has completed RO DBT intensive training and recognizes its effectiveness for persons struggling with eating disorders, as these folks often suffer in silence, holding their pain with such controlled ability that few, if any, know how bad they are hurting.
What’s the difference between DBT and RO?
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created back in the early 90s specifically to help people who were chronically suicidal and emotionally dysregulated, often people diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. RO DBT is a new treatment that branched off from DBT in the early 2000s and is focused on the problems of people who are emotionally overcontrolled, basically the polar opposite of who DBT is intended to help. You can read a detailed breakdown of the difference here.